I don't like to compare myself to other mothers because each situation and child is unique, but I do believe I am the best mother for my daughter. Here are some parenting tips that make it easier to parent my energetic, brilliant, sensitive, and focused girl. This doesn't mean I am perfect or always the best. In fact, many of these lessons I learned by reflecting on mistakes and correcting my behavior. I included links to my blog that speak to each idea, and illustrates what works for our family.
Accept my daughter for who she is right now. It's okay if she doesn't want to attend ballet class because she can still enjoy dance at home, a setting she feels more comfortable.
Let her hands get dirty in the earth's soil. It was truly remarkable to watch her create her own flower garden.
Transitions are hard for her. Respond with patience and love when she has trouble dealing with changes. Create times to connect with her in a playful, positive way.
Give her opportunities to care for others. The best place to start is in our own home, and sometimes I let her pamper Mommy. Small children are egocentric, but keep encouraging generosity and compassion in relevant ways.
Teach her to contribute to the household. Start encouraging help with chores at a young age. Be happy for the help even if it's not perfect.
Provide lots of free play time. Her happiest days are when she can spend most of the day playing.
Slow down. Pause to take quiet moments in the day, and spend time doing nothing with my child. In these times, she can feel appreciated for who she is not what she does.
Share my faith - a belief that there is a God who loves her and can provide her comfort and strength.
Allow my daughter to have her own creative ideas. When we craft together, I have a vision for how I would like my own projects to turn out, but I allow her to use the provided materials to create something of her very own. Her art pieces rarely look like mine, and I am proud she has her own self expression.
Appreciate my life. Recognizing the beauty in my life and finding time to devote to my passion, creating activities for children, makes me a happier person. Pursue a passion even if it has nothing to do with children.
12 comments:
Love this! So thankful that you are not trying to be perfect and know that God thought you were the best mother for this child. Best wishes for the New Year!
Sheila, Happy New Year to you too! I definitely believe my daughter is part of my destiny. Letting go of perfection makes it much easier to parent.
This is my favorite post yet...as if there could be a favorite! You rock Rebeakah!
Your daughter is super lucky to have a mum who is so in touch with her needs x
This is a lovely post. Some great thoughts to end the year. Thank you.
Well, I think you're the best mom for your daughter, too! And I'm sure she agrees! Great post!
Well said, lovely mama. One of my greatest joys is just BEING with my children. We have the best conversations. And silences.
Blessings...
Dena - You are a rock star too!! I am so tickled it was your favorite.
HWH - I think I am the lucky one. =)
Ali - Such sweet sentiments in your compliments.
C&C - Oh yes, I have no doubt she agrees. She's felt that way since day one.
W-S - Yes, the moments where we just look at each other and smile are priceless. Thank you for visiting my blog. I just took a brief look at your's and your photos are amazing. I can't wait to follow your more on your blog.
What a beautiful post! It definitely makes you think about how its not about being a perfect parent, but being the best parent we can for our own children. I believe this post will make me reflect on my own parenting over the next few days.
Happy New Year!
Sunshine Mama, I hope your time of reflection is fruitful. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.
DailyBuzz Top 9 again! You're on a roll! Loved this post when it ran and loved it again. Congrats!
OH man! Another great list- thank you!!! I like that last one because it models healthy behavior without putting all the focus on yourself. It just shows your kids you enjoy and appreciate your own talents.
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