The Best 5 Minutes a Day

Monday, March 25, 2013

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Like most mothers of school age children, I feel like our mornings are rushed getting the kids fed and ready for school on time.  It is easy to get caught up on keeping to a schedule that you find yourself lacking time to connect with your children.


One idea transformed our mornings to shift the focus away from the hustle bustle.  

First thing in the morning, take five minutes to snuggle with your child.

This simple suggestion found in Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham of Aha Parenting revolutionized our mornings.

True, it is not just five minutes but 20 minutes for our family with four children, but each of those five minutes are the best part of the day.

It doesn't always look the same for each child.

Some want to cuddle on one of our recliners.  Others want to snuggle while still waking up from sleep in their beds.

Sometimes the time is filled with chitter chatter.  Other times we hug in a peaceful silence.

Sometimes they are nestled snuggly in my arms, and there are silly times with tickles.

I feel this is especially important for my children who attend school.  This is our chance to connect in a loving way before they spend 7 hours away from home.

I know this is helping my children when away from me because of a report from my son's teacher.  She told me she was asking my son to try to think about a happy memory when he gets angry to help him calm down.  He told her his happy place is hugging me every morning.  Our morning hugs help carry him through his day.

Sure there is a lot of rushing about once we have finished our cuddles, but finding time to bond with my children each morning starts the day off right in a loving way.

How do you connect with your children in the morning to start your day in a loving way?

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16 comments:

Carolyn @ Mama's Little Muse said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Last week, I decided, really for environmental reasons, to take the city bus with my son to his school. I thought of it as an adventure. I have found, though, in those 5 days, it has been so much more satisfying than I could ever imagine. The morning,generally is a chaotic time for families, and believe me, it is for us before we get to the bus. BUT, as soon as we get on the bus, that all falls away, and we have tranquil, connecting time...I read my son books the whole time, and it has felt SO SPECIAL...we will continue doing this!!! Thank you for this post. It is important to start the day with some loving connecting time!

Kristin said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I loved this post, Rebekah! What a beautiful way to start the day.

Gina said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

What a great post, Rebekah!! A lot of times we sit and read a couple books in my son's room before we actually get up and begin the day. It's wonderful to start in a positive way that you can connect with your kids. :) I love that you take the time to do this with each of your children, individually.

The Iowa Farmer's Wife said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Oh Rebekah, reading this brought me to tears. Especially the part about your son's favorite part of the day. The joy you are bringing to your children's lives is so admirable and what a testament to your parenting to hear that from his teacher. You are a wonderful, beautiful mama - inside and out.

Kristin said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

This is the reason that I love to snuggle with my son in the morning - he wakes me up at some point and I bring him to bed with us, and get to snuggle every morning. It's wonderful!

pricklymom said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

(1) You look SO CUTE and happy in the pic above! (2) I'm reading the same book you mentioned above, but I'm only about 1/4 of the way through, so I haven't gotten to the part you're writing about. I'm going to institute the morning cuddle, too--it sounds like a FANTASTIC idea, especially when coupled with the notion (not sure if it's from the same book; I'm reading so many books) that the child wants to reconnect with you after being separated all night.

Ann @ My Nearest and Dearest said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I think it's so wonderful that you take the time to do this with 4 kids! Obviously, it's worth it!
I only have 1 child and he's not yet in school, so our mornings are a lot less rushed than yours. I do however, usually join him in his bed for some snuggles when he wakes up. I love it!!

Rebekah P said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

@Carolyn @ Mama's Little Muse How wonderful that something that was started to be more green ended up helping you connect with your son better. It sounds like the commute to school is gratifying in many ways.

Rebekah P said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

@Kristin Ahhh, what a beautiful way to wake up each morning. If only we could all wake to such a sweet alarm clock.

Rebekah P said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

@Gina Reading in bed in the morning is so sweet. I used to do that when my oldest was very little. She used to wake so early so I would read her a few books and innevitably doze off to sleep while reading the books and she usually would continue reading her books in a bed for a bit so I could catch a few minutes more of sleep.

Rebekah P said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

@The Iowa Farmer's Wife You are too sweet. Thank you for bringing a smile to my face.

Rebekah P said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

@pricklymom You made my day with your compliment! It is sort of still hard for me to post pictures with me front and center. Yes, that is right the book suggests that you do need to pay special importance to times of departure and reunion. A whole night away from a parent is a really long time for a child and as a Mama who coslept for sometime I totally get that.

Rebekah P said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

@Ann @ My Nearest and Dearest It is a challenge to fit it in with four kids. And sometimes I will cuddle with the younger two after school drop off if I haven't managed to drag myself out of bed early enough but the day gets off on such a better start when I am intentional about paying attention to each child's needs first thing in the morning.

maryanne @ mama smiles said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I am always amazed at what a difference a few minutes of focused attention makes for my kids!

Mel@TheDizzyMom said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I love this. It sets the tone for the day. We snuggle for a few minutes as soon as they wake up. It starts the day with smiles.

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Ana said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I really love this post! I've been having a hard time with my daughter since the birth of her baby brother. Recently I started making sure I spend some time just playing with her or sitting with her while she does an activity every day and I've noticed a huge improvement in our relationship. One on one time is so important for kids.
Thanks for the reminder!

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