A lot of parenting dilemmas are complicated with no black or white answers. Parents have different solutions to the exact same scenario. And there may not be one answer that works for every child and every family.
One such parenting issue is boys wanting to wear girls clothes.
We went shopping for shoes this weekend. Our oldest daughter was giddy over the selection of sparkly and pink shoes. The only problem for her is she wanted them all.
As we continued looking for shoes, our son looked sullen. I asked him if there was anything wrong.
He muttered that he didn't like the boy shoes. He wanted pink, sparkly shoes like his big sister.
I knew that my selection of practical brown shoes for him was out of the question. I started looking for boy shoes with the most bling. Light up shoes weren't possible since he has several kids in his class with sensory challenges.
I showed him the more flashy boy shoes.
He still looked morose.
He wanted to choose from the girls selection.
And here was the dilemma. I have no moral objection to boys wearing girls clothes.
We have no rules against our son wearing girl dress up clothes. Our son has a doll and plays with My Little Ponies. Those things don't bother me at all.
But I was worried about him wearing girls shoes out in public. There is a real possibility he could get teased or stared at. I couldn't stand the idea of our sensitive son being made fun of for his choice of shoes.
I decided to be honest with him. I explained to him that I thought it was okay for boys to wear pink and sparkly shoes, but some people don't think boys should wear those things.
Some people say mean things to boys who wear girls shoes. There could be children at his school that laugh at him or stare at him for wearing girls shoes.
Did he want to buy girls shoes even though people might be mean to him if he wore them to school?
He made a choice to select boy shoes. He still wasn't happy about it, but he perked up when he discovered there was a superhero comic book included with his shoes.
I am unsure if I did the right thing. Part of me wishes I let him choose pink sparkly shoes.
And this is what makes parenting so hard. Sometimes you aren't sure if you made the right decision when faced with a problem. There isn't always a right answer.
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